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ftvfatboy · Posted: Thu Dec 01, 2005 1:42 am Post subject: what is love#######@@@@@

Love & Marriage - Really a Good One.

Pls go through -It's very short & sweet. One day, john asked his teacher, "What is love? How can I find it?"

His teacher answered, "There is a vast wheat field in front. Walk forward without turning back, and pick only one stalk.

If you find the most magnificent stalk, then you have found love." John walked forward, and before long, he returned with empty hands, having

picked nothing. His teacher asked, "Why did you not pick any stalk?" john answered, "Because I could only pick once, and yet I could not turn back.

I did find the most magnificent stalk, but did not know if there were any better ones ahead, so I did not pick it. As I walked further, the stalks

that I saw werenot as good as the earlier one, so I did not pick any in the end. His teacher then said, "And that is love."

On another day, John asked his teacher, "What is marriage? How can I Find it?" His teacher answered, "There is a thriving forest in front. Walk forward without turning back, and chop down only one tree. If you find the tallest tree, then you have found marriage". john walked forward, and before long, He returned with a tree. The tree was not bad, and it was not tall either. It was only an ordinary tree, not the best but just a good tree.

His teacher asked, "Why did you chop down such an ordinary tree?" john answered, "Because of my previous experience. I had walked through the field, but returned with empty hands. This time, I saw this tree, and I felt that it was the first good tree that I saw, so I chopped it down and brought it back. I did not want to miss the opportunity." His teacher then said, "And that is marriage.

You see john , Love is the most beautiful thing to happen to a person, its an opportunity but you don't realise its worth when you have it but only when its gone like the field of stalks. Marriage like the tree you chopped, it's a compromise; you pick the first best thing you see and learn to live a happy life with it."

akosirap16 · BizHat Newbie Joined: 25 Dec 2005 Posts: 5

for me love is immaculate.

it is pure and full of sense.
everything could happen because of love.
impossible can be possible.
it is everything.

what could i say?

im in love!.. Smile

crazybobi · BizHat Newbie Joined: 26 Dec 2005 Posts: 6

I'm not in love in this moment Confused

EskimoWagz · BizHat Newbie Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 40

The fist parable reminds me of myself.
A truly sad story, but I have to disagree with the second.
John walked through the forest and only picked average.
If I can't find a perfect woman (I am a male) that respects me as much as I respect her then I won't get married.
Hum... I'm guessing that the women that read this comment will see the previous line "perfect woman" and will say something like
"HA, good luck with that."

Just because I'm posting in a forum on the web doesn't mean I'm a nerd here. *just some clarification*

I'm a Christian and I have HIGH morals and values. If you want to know what true love is I will tell you.

"Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends."

indianbaba · BizHat MOD Joined: 21 Aug 2005 Posts: 5505 Location: India

To me love after marriage with ur wife is the true love that will last forever. For me, love during college days is just waste. it is my personal comment. I have seen many lovers who just love for fun which made me take this decision.

EskimoWagz · BizHat Newbie Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 40

Yes, I agree with you indianbaba. Love should not be taken lightly or be used for "fun".

http://neerajsingh.bizhat · Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 3:04 am Post subject: Re: what is love#######@@@@@

Kakashi · Posted: Fri Jan 13, 2006 10:23 am Post subject:

I believe that love is a feeling difficult to obtain, and when someone does obtain it, then it is even more difficult to keep for long.
Marriage should have it's foundations on love and therefore should be an extension of it. That doesn't mean I didn't enjoy the metaphor in the story, but I believe that marriage is not something compromising.
Just my thoughts.

Bad Religion · Posted: Sun Jan 15, 2006 4:50 am Post subject: Re: what is love#######@@@@@

im not in love but i really want to be!

http://neerajsingh.bizhat

One thing always puzzles me that why should ech love end in marriages. Why do lover become so possesive? Why is this insecure feeling?

I personally feel that once we are in love and by some reasons if it can't be converted into marriage, we should happily live with the situations. It's not about compromising but let your love relations should form a firm base for a start of a better mature relationship as a friend in life. You can come to this friend of you anytime in your life.

Just start a fresh with your marriage partner...

indianbaba · BizHat MOD Joined: 21 Aug 2005 Posts: 5505 Location: India

We love for getting married. i strongly disagree with u neeraj. Love is not a feeling to be restarted. It will/should come only once in ur life. If it comes more than once, then it is not true love.

http://neerajsingh.bizhat · Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 2:20 am Post subject:

Dear indianbaba,

I knew when I posted - that my views are not going to be welcomed by the readers and you have every reasons to come and argue.

I am NOT against any love - affair or love getting converted into marriages or the reverse phenomenon my dear friend. Your first love is always special.

But I disagree with you when you say "We love for getting married". This is conditional love but as my understanding goes - love asks for sacrifice. It should empower you so that you may live without each other also.

I feel its the Indian Bollywood Films that have distorted the meaning of Love and the current age young generation like us sometimes get confused with it.

I welcome your views.

indianbaba · BizHat MOD Joined: 21 Aug 2005 Posts: 5505 Location: India

http://neerajsingh.bizhat · Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 8:43 am Post subject:

Kakashi · Posted: Mon Jan 16, 2006 10:59 am Post subject:

I watched your argument Neeraj/Ebisu-san and indianbaba and if you allow me, I would like to ask a few questions myself on the matter.
Neeraj says that if you are in love with someone but can't marry him for some reasons, you should be happy. I would like to know what kind of reasons could there be.
Your mate being already married? Your parents not wanting your mate/ vice versa? Social factors? Age factors? Wealth factors? Someone blackmailing you?
Each case is different. If your mate is already married, then the relationship is wrong - and should not have started. If it's a parent thing, you shouldn't bother listening to them. You're their child, if they can't accept your decisions, let them not. But don't be bothered. If it's a factor thing, you can always overcome it. Blackmail? Well, that's kind of complicated. But if you really want to be with someone and get married, you can find a way.
Let's say that when you love someone really much, you want to spend the rest of your days with them, and thus get married with them. It is only natural. It is not about insecurance, it is about deep connection and bonding. I am not saying that if you are not married with your mate you are not bonded, it is just that marriage brings you even closer.

Indianbaba I agree that it is our heritage to live and get married with a very special someone, but I also think that we are able of loving more than once in our life. I am not saying that we can go around and love just about everyone, but in someone's life there may be two or even three "great loves". If they are many, they are not real. I am talking about only a selected few, and if someone is lucky, just one, person that changes your whole life.
The person that becomes your "light" and guide, the person without whom you feel lost, empty and dead. That is the one you should get married with, and that alone. And I think when the time comes, nothing can keep you two apart. If you want to join your lives, you'll find a way.
Just my thoughts.