One learns love from his/her mother. Mother is one who sacrifices a whole life for their children without availing a fraction of love that she gives. If one is not loving his/her mother, he/she cannot love anybody !.

I am reminded of a saying :

War and love both hurts. It is easy to start, but difficult to stop.

Your actions will come to you as a boomarang. Your child is watching you. He/she will take you as a role model. So beware parents !.

Humans are possessive over love. To opt between Mother and wife will be difficult as both are so dear.