Quote Originally Posted by Kakashi
I watched your argument Neeraj/Ebisu-san and indianbaba and if you allow me, I would like to ask a few questions myself on the matter.

Neeraj says that if you are in love with someone but can't marry him for some reasons, you should be happy. I would like to know what kind of reasons could there be. Your mate being already married? Your parents not wanting your mate/ vice versa? Social factors? Age factors? Wealth factors? Someone blackmailing you?

Each case is different. If your mate is already married, then the relationship is wrong - and should not have started. If it's a parent thing, you shouldn't bother listening to them. You're their child, if they can't accept your decisions, let them not. But don't be bothered. If it's a factor thing, you can always overcome it. Blackmail? Well, that's kind of complicated. But if you really want to be with someone and get married, you can find a way.

Let's say that when you love someone really much, you want to spend the rest of your days with them, and thus get married with them. It is only natural. It is not about insecurance, it is about deep connection and bonding. I am not saying that if you are not married with your mate you are not bonded, it is just that marriage brings you even closer.
Thanks for your comments and taking interest in the on going discussion over Love. I am totally flat after looking at your response Kakashi-san. Frankly speaking after reading it completely, I myself have started to look at it from different perspective. I am a bit late in my response. Anyway, here is my response to make it more interesting.

You have given many reasons when a love can't be converted into marriage. I agree with you that we should strive hard to face any of the challenges and try to remove obstacles from our way so that we may get our love as our wife or husband. It's an unparallel feeling indeed. They say Love is God and I feel it is !

My thoughts don't clash with above logic. What I mean to say that there is always a scope that things didn't turn your way. Let us take an example in Indian scenario where family bonds are too strong and a marriage decision takes into consideration multi-directional aspects. Love doesn't see the social status, economical status, religion, color or caste. But as a social animal, our society do. India is a typical example where you can find every permutation and combination of love.

At some point of time, we have to take a decision that we should get married with each other. Then following things may happen.

There is no complexity in getting married with your love - Go ahead. All the best.

Lovers are ready but there are some sort disagreement among any of the stakeholders due to any of the reasons say ---
In this case, you need to take a decision as to which path you are going to choose. Just take the tough decision and go and get married with your love. Just check that you only get selfish to a certain extent and you never feel guilty of your choice at some juncture of your life in future. Also you are strong enough to face the challenges posed by the always complaining society where you live. In the end the most important thing that your main aim of life is not going to get affected by your decisions. The transition from love to marriage should be so smooth that it should not lag you behind in acheiving your goals in life. Love is one of the most important thing in life BUT it's NOT THE EVERYTHING in your life.

You have to decide to part way due to some unfavorable circumstances. -- There are different ways to achieve the same thing and many a time we take so long time to reach at the destination that the final target itself is not meaningful by the time we reach there. Please do not spoil your whole life because you can't call your lover as your husband / wife. You have tried your best but couldn't help it so don't think like a loser. God might have kept something better for you and it's upto us to open our doors to welcome and receive it. Let the fresh air come in. You are not failing in love, it's just the unconventional end that you are giving to your love. So, that's why I suggested in my previous post that we can create a win-win situation if we give our previous lover a status of a very - very close friend who will always be there as a friend who understand you the most and get married with someone and love your partner so passionately that he/she forget his past (if he or she had any).

PS:If you can't convince them, confuse them. Ø Life is unsure; always eat your dessert first.