Online Dating Tips

[Perfection]

Be a good wife - tips

Both you have a common goal - to be happy in life together.

Don't shout at your husband. He wants peace of mind when he comes home and, therefore, he tries very hard not to retaliate, and to accepts the insults and humiliations.

Learn to enjoy simple pleasures of life.

Don't compare your husband with other husbands.

Have a problematic husband - It is you and him - both have created a problem and only both of you can solve it.

The mightiest tree falls with a humble axe on the hundredth stroke. It does not mean the earlier ninety nine strokes did not contribute to the success.

[belablasko]

How To Be A Good Husband

1. Be Her Sounding Board

When your wife tells you her problems, she isn't necessarily looking for a problem solver. She wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what's going on in her life.
A husband who hears about his wife's problems instinctively wants to come to the rescue. But most of the time, this isn't what your wife is looking for. You need to fill the role more of a psychologist than that of a troubleshooter. Listen to her problems; show concern for those problems; show that you have empathy; but don't always reply with "here's what you need to do."
When your wife comes to you with her problems, she isn't looking for you to be her lawyer. And she certainly doesn't need you to be her football coach, giving her fiery motivational speeches about how to beat her problem. She wants a counsellor, to listen to her problems and help her deal with their emotional impact.
2. Show Respect

A good exercise for every husband is to try to show your wife respect. This dovetails with my previous point, but goes beyond that specific situation.
A major part of showing respect is to avoid the trap of being hyper-critical. Don't criticize the way your wife dresses, cooks meals, parks the car or walks the dog. You might think you are instructing your wife, but you are actually showing disrespect for the decisions you make.
Actions are just as important as words. Don't make decisions that normally a married couple makes together. This shows you have no respect for her opinion.
Also, try to avoid certain intonations with your wife, the kind that can be described as "talking down" to her. A woman can pick up on these as well or better than a man can. These tell her you have contempt for whatever is she's doing, that you are treating her like a child or even your pet. Showing a lack of respect is one of the surest ways to poison a marriage.
3. Avoid Judgment

When you live with someone every day, it's hard not to build up resentments and overanalyze your partner's every move. But no one is going to stand up to that level of scrutiny. Try not to sweat the little stuff, because it has a way of becoming big rather quickly. If you judge every action or opinion your wife has, that's going to come through in your words and actions.
Your wife is different from you. Of course she isn't going to perceive things the way you do. She's had different life experiences than you, not the least of which is the general experience of living life as a woman. She won't always like what you like. She won't behave like a man does. Apart from sexual needs and having children, that's one of the reasons men get into a relationship. We feel the need for a woman's companionship.
4. Don't Bring Your Own Issues Into the Marriage

As I mentioned earlier, being in a marriage is being part of a team. This means you sometimes have to put your wants or needs second to those of the team.
All of us have emotional baggage. When we marry, we bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. But when your wife comes to you for support, that isn't the time to open up that emotional baggage. There are times when you can unload this stuff on your wife, but not when she needs your support.
It's common for a man to internalize all her problems and make them our own. But if you do this, you are losing sight of why she confided in you in the first place. Don't be selfish when you are supposed to be supportive. I mean, all of us tend to process information through our own filter. But that doesn't mean our opinions are always useful to the problem.
5. Know When to Make it About You

Of course, it can't always be about her or the marriage. There are times when your needs should be met. That's the definition of a give-and-take partnership, which is what a marriage should be about.
Tell her how you feel, but don't put her in a defensive position. This means you describe to her how something she does affects you without making your feelings accusatory. When you talk about issues in your marriage, tell her about how it affects you instead of what it is about her that bothers you. Good communication is one of the keys of a healthy marriage; good communication requires you to tell her how you are affected.
If your wife does something that hurts you, tell her exactly that you are hurt. Don't focus on her actions, but on the consequences of those actions. If you simply accuse her of undermining you or being insensitive, it automatically puts her on the defensive. When she's defensive about her actions, good communication becomes all but impossible.
6. Be Affectionate

I know guys don't like being cuddly. Being affectionate after sex takes time and it doesn't make us feel manly, but women need affection sometimes. If you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it's insincere.
Of course, this goes beyond the bedroom. If you show your wife spontaneous affection occasionally, it reassures her of the love bond.
7. Be Willing to Get Outside Help

There's the common joke about men refusing to ask for directions. Men throughout history have needed to be self-sufficient. That's one of the characteristics which make men successful. When we were out in the wilderness hunting for food, we couldn't stop at the convenience store to ask where the herd was.
That being said, self-reliance can only take us so far. A smart man has to realise when he can't do it all himself. One of those cases is the man whose marriage is in trouble. It's very standard for a man to refuse to go to a marriage counselor.
A man would prefer to buy a map than ask for directions. In the same way, he would rather read how-to guides on how to save his marriage than ask for professional help. In a lot of cases, getting good advice is enough. Modifying our attitudes and the subsequent behaviors those attitudes cause can have profound effects on a failing marriage. But sometimes the problems run deeper. That's when a man has to give into his wife's request that they speak to a counselor

[Your Future Dating]

HELP! What should I write in my profile?
So you've decided to try online personals. Well you've come to the right place. Here are tips for writing attention getting profiles.

Most online dating services ask standard questions about yourself. It's great to get the particulars of yourself out of the way, but the key to a good personal ad is what you write in the description & headline fields. Think of your personal ad as an advertisement for yourself. The goal is to draw people in with your headline and keep the reader's attention by writing an interesting description of yourself.

Your Headline

The headline for your profile needs to be catchy enough to get someone's attention in just a few words. You can easily do this by using keywords that best sum up your personality. If you're funny it should show in your headline. There's no need to include details about yourself such as your age since that information is listed along with your headline. It's also important not to say anything that makes you sound desperate like in these examples:

Lonely Guy/Girl
Sick of being single
Desperate for love
Tired of Looking

Remember, you're essentially trying to sell yourself and your positive qualities. So avoid negative statements in your headline and have fun with it! It's also a good idea to include phrases like "click here" or ask a question like "Are you a movie fanatic?" When you ask someone to do something or to answer a question you're more likely to get results.

Your Description

Now let's talk about the Description for your ad. This is your chance to say in your own words what you're about. It's not enough to answer a bunch of generic questions. So GO FOR IT. Let your personality show and don't hold back. Keep in mind there are hundreds of profiles just like yours that say the same things. So say something to stand out from the crowd and make the reader curious to find out more about you. Talk about things that are interesting to you and stay away from clichйs. And please, please avoid making up things about yourself. You're only wasting your time and someone else's by being dishonest. I suggest writing enough to convey what you're about but not revealing everything about yourself initially. A good rule of thumb is to keep your description within 200-300 words.

Good luck!!

[Jay Jay]

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[faster44]

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[anita85]

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[thirtyplusshaadi]

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[Tagathe]

I don't know why it's called online dating because dating happens offline...however, when getting to know people online for potential offline dates, here are some tips:


1. Represent yourself truthfully...don't act like someone you are not, don't put bogus info or pics in your profile


2. Don't give out any personal information (name, phone number, address, place of work) until you've gotten to know someone a bit...in fact, it's best not to divulge that info until after you've met and gotten an impression of them...


3. When you make arrangements to meet, do so in a public place...arrive and leave separately...don't have them pick you up or vice versa, don't let them follow you home...


4. If something seems off or too good to be true, let that be a red flag...there are plenty of honest and kewl people online, but there are also plenty who are not...use good judgement and don't believe everything you see or hear

[dooli]

A long time I posted about getting out of a 10 year relationship and starting online dating. Well I tried all the apps and learned a lot But I am happy to say that I met an amazing partner who me and my family adores. We will be moving in with each other in June