How should we motivate ourselves in negative circumstances?

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Thanks for your participation and suggestion Guttu Bhai and CFE_AnCiEnT__

Here is something - I thought of sharing with you.

A Better You.

Don't concern yourself with being better than everyone else. That will mainly get you resentment, disappointment or both.
Focus instead on being better today than you were yesterday, on being even better tomorrow than you are today.

When you compare yourself to others, you will either end up being disappointed or you will end up being arrogant. Instead, compare yourself to yourself. The important thing is to make progress in your life. Upstaging someone else simply won't bring you any true gain. Improving yourself will.

We all share certain things in common, and yet no two people are same. There is no one who is better than you. And at the same time you are better than no one else. You are unique. You are beyond compare. Make the most of it. Make it better and better each day. Stop worrying about everything else and you'll free up enormous energy to be the best you can be.

- Ralph Marston

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The Importance of Conscience

By Elisha M. Webster

I was faced with a decision. While delivering laundry into the appropriate bedrooms, I stumbled upon my thirteen-year-old sister's diary, a modern-day Pandora's box, suffused with temptation. What was I to do? I had always been jealous of my little sister. Her charming smile, endearing personality and many talents threatened my place as leading lady. I competed with her tacitly and grew to resent her natural abilities. I felt it necessary to shatter her shadow with achievements of my own. As a result, we seldom spoke. I sought opportunities to criticize her and relished surpassing her achievements. Her diary lay at my feet, and I didn't think of the result of opening it. I considered not her privacy, the morality of my actions, nor her consequential pain. I merely savored the possibility of digging up enough dirt to soil my competitor's spotless record. I reasoned my iniquity as sisterly duty. It was my responsibility to keep a check on her activities. It would be wrong of me not to.

I tentatively plucked the book from the floor and opened it, fanning through the pages, searching for my name, convinced that I would discover scheming and slander. As I read, the blood ran from my face. It was worse than I suspected. I felt faint and slouched to the floor. There was neither conspiracy nor defamation. There was a succinct description of herself, her goals and her dreams followed by a short portrayal of the person who has inspired her most. I started to cry.

I was her hero. She admired me for my personality, my achievements and, ironically, my integrity. She wanted to be like me. She had been watching me for years, quietly marveling over my choices and actions. I ceased reading, struck with the crime I had committed. I had expended so much energy into pushing her away that I had missed out on her.

I had wasted years resenting someone capable of magic - and now I had violated her trust. It was I who had lost something beautiful, and it was I who would never allow myself to do such a thing again.

Reading the earnest words my sister had written seemed to melt an icy barrier around my heart, and I longed to know her again. I was finally able to put aside the petty insecurity that kept me from her. On that fateful afternoon, as I put aside the laundry and rose to my feet, I decided to go to her - this time to experience instead of to judge, to embrace instead of to fight. After all, she was my sister.

"People seldom become famous for what they say until after they are famous for what they've done."

Cullen Hightower

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The Rewards and Risks of Personal Freedom

Charlie Badenhop

YOUR MOVE
Life is a game, play it;
Life is a challenge, meet it;
Life is an opportunity, capture it.

One of the first things I noticed about my newly purchased parrot, was that he couldn't fly. Chico's wings had been clipped and he was stuck here on earth just like us humans.

Once the weather turned nice I took Chico and sat him on a branch of a tree in my backyard, hoping to make him happier. At first he seemed confused. He walked back and forth on the branch looking like an agitated father pacing back and forth in the maternity waiting room. I was surprised to see that he didn't flap his wings in an attempt to fly. Somehow he knew he was incapable. I always wondered how he knew such a thing.

One day, while sitting on his branch, Chico got way more agitated then he had been when I first took him outside months ago. He was pacing back and forth and talking up a storm. Then all of a sudden, he stopped pacing, let out a spine tingling scream, and started madly flapping his wings for the first time ever. About three seconds later, he lifted off from the branch like the space shuttle at Cape Canaveral! I was amazed and shocked. Little did I know his feathers had been growing back in, and just like a sly convict, Chico had been biding his time until the moment was ripe for escape!

Chico made his break for freedom on a late Monday afternoon, and by late Monday night I knew he was not coming home. Finally, on Tuesday evening Chico returned, but stayed way out of reach. I talked to him and showed him some food, but to no avail. Then I took his cage inside so he would not relate coming back to getting locked up again. Finally, I made him a firm promise that if he did come back I would let him out every day the weather was nice. Shortly after making my solemn oath, he flew onto my shoulder and I took him upstairs.

From that day on, whenever the weather was good I would let him out early and he would fly around and be back before dark. This routine lasted for about two months and then suddenly Chico became ill. The vet said that he had contracted a disease from the pigeons in the neighborhood. Within a few days he died, and I mourned his loss.

Just once the thought crossed my mind that if I had not set him free to fly every day, he would still be alive. It was then that I realized that the quality of one's life is much more important than the number of years one lives. What sense is there in being a bird if you can't fly?

Chico made his initial break for freedom on a late Monday afternoon in April. When will you make yours? You too can take a chance when the conditions are right, knowing you too in your own way, were built to fly. If you don't set yourself free, what will be the purpose of your life?

I would suggest that the quality of one's life is dependant on feeling one's essence, and living the design that is you. If you are a fish, your life needs to be all about swimming. If you are a bird, your life needs to be all about flying and spreading your message to all that you meet along the way. What sense is there in being you, if you don't really let yourself free and express your heart?

About the author:
Charlie Badenhop is the originator of Seishindo, an Aikido instructor, NLP trainer, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapist. Benefit from a new self-help Practice every two weeks, by subscribing to his complimentary newsletter "Pure heart, simple mind" at www.seishindo.org

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yes we shld motivate under such circumstances.
becoz we will have atlease faith to fought fear.
am i correct boyz?!

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Yeah that's true that when we have faith in ourselves, we are ready to face any of the challenges in life.

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If your friend or a partner is angry with you. Just think, "Anger of my partner is better than a fool's smile". When the whole World seems so dismal and when everyone seems so unkind, it is the love of a true friend who will put an arm around you and whisper "Never Mind".

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One thing no one will ever take away from me is my happiness.

A positive attitude with some direction can get you far.

Sometimes I get down and knocked out, no one goes undefeated. But I pick myself up, and keep going. Cause I am tough.

Responsibility: Be responsible, sure you can drink, but don't drive. If you’re going to have sex, use a condom. Common sense.

Courage: In order to get ahead in life you need to be a go-getter. Things don't just come to you.

If something makes you unhappy, brake away from it, cause it'll serve like a virus and just spread across your mind and not only effect you mentally, but eventually unhappy feelings and thoughts get to you physically.
For e.g.: crying and sleeping behaviors (too much, or not enough) etc.

Be courageous, do what's right for you, don't let some sucker live your life for you. Go out there, and just have fun.

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While we may not recognize it at the time, every challenge we face is ultimately an opportunity to bring more love and higher consciousness into our lives. The obstacles we encounter every day - whether great trials or minor bumps in the road - provide us an opportunity to learn and to grow. By placing obstacles in our path, the universe focuses our attention on life lessons that, on a deeper level, we wish to comprehend more fully. If we choose to, we can view any disharmony in our daily lives as an invitation to shed an old belief or behavior pattern in favor of a more enlightened one.

The challenge is to recognize the lesson being offered by a given situation. Often we learn about a positive quality by experiencing its opposite. An impulse toward anger may teach us about love or acceptance. A sense of constraint may teach us about freedom. A situation that appears beyond our control may prompt us to discover our own role in its creation. The lessons presented to us may encourage us to develop soul qualities such as humility, patience, or forgiveness.

Sometimes we are too involved in our present difficulty to find that higher perspective is more easily recognized in hindsight. Yet this doesn't mean we are without the tools to deal with it. Regardless of the size and nature of your difficulty, an attitude of love and gratitude will move you through it more easily and bring resolution more quickly. When difficulties arise, hold a loving thought for yourself and for whoever else is involved. Challenge yourself to find something in the situation to be grateful for, no matter how small, and thank the universe for it. This shift in attitude will shift the situation and your perspective, and it will bring you closer to that deeper understanding your soul is seeking on your behalf. Life lessons don't always come packaged the way we expect them to, and it is sometimes these lessons that ultimately bring us the greatest joy.

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"Opportunity knocks many times at your door and it is up to you for which one you open the door."

"Luck is when preparation meets opportunity"

We should not get discouraged by the initial failures instead we need to focus over our preparations. Sometimes, we feel that time is not good and things are not happening as it should have turned out to be. But as the saying goes that form is temporary but the class is permanent, same way if we are good at our preparations, we are sure to get success in our life. Don't forget ! opportunity is waiting at your door boss ~!!

We set very high standards for ourselves, this also creates problems sometimes in our life. It adds to frustration. We should start with small targets and gradually go up to the ladder. We should be judicious enough to take the right decisions and a good pool of quality friends really help to our cause.


I read in my school time in NCERT book GandhiJi Talisman. The gist is whenever you want to check whether the decision you are going to take is correct or not, you should recollect in your memory the poorest person that you have seen in your life and try to judge if your present step is going to help this man in anyway. If your answer is "Yes", go ahead with your decision.

Whenever, we feel that luck is not favoring us, we should think of someone who are more unlucky and it really helps in regaining the lost faith in ourselves. Small small things have very deep effect in our life. Lets care about those and the bigger things would automatically manage itself.

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Believe in yourself and your values,
don't sell out when things go wrong.
Don't let anything get you down,
always bounce back up.

Set goals for your future,
never settle for anything less.
Realize that there are others in the world,
with much bigger problems than you.

Appreciate the good things in your life,
and be thankful for the time,
you have with your loved ones.
Spend more time with your family and friends.

Appreciate the simple things in life,
and don't get caught up in material things.