How to bring up kids to have good manners

[minisoji]

Practice Before You Preach
The first thing that any parent should do is to model the behavior that they would like to inculcate in their child. Merely instructing a child about what to do is not enough. Your child needs to hear you say it. For example, when you are in a store, and speak to the store in charge or worker politely, by saying, “Excuse me sir, can you please help me look for the exotic fruits?” your child, who is hearing an example of how he should speak to people, will learn the lesson in the best possible way that he or she can. You should regularly and consistently show them good manners and never miss an opportunity to do the same; because if you do not, it may come to your notice sooner or later and your child might either point it out to you or learn the wrong stuff from you. Just as language is learned naturally by practice and speech, so are manners.

Play Your Roles
Another way to inculcate good manners is to play games with young children with the use of dolls and stuffed animals. The old-fashioned tea parties can serve a very important purpose, by teaching children not only about manners but also societal niceties. Though these days children are not having enough tea parties for their dolls anymore, but you can certainly bring up the idea and participate. It is, actually a wonderful opportunity to practice those social skills. Playing with stuffed animals and puppets who use nice words and manners also help your child to see manners as part of his/her everyday world, and help to develop it like a habit, much like brushing teeth.

A Good Pat On The Back
You will have to keep complimenting your child when he or she uses good manners. You can say, “It was really wonderful of you when you thanked Mrs. Sharma for the cookies she brought us. I’m sure that made her feel really good.” Children enjoy having the power to be the cause of someone’s happiness or any other positive feeling, so you should definitely encourage them to use it. This kind of response is the opposite of reacting strongly to displays of bad manners, which might only serve to reinforce the behavior, because even negative attention is attention. If your child behaves rudely, correct him/her. Try not to make a really big deal out of it, because then you are giving him/her the power to cause you to have a reaction based on his/her poor behavior. You definitely do not want the behavior to become a pattern.

Booking Good Manners
One way to help your child to understand the importance of manners is to read books about different social situations in which people are called upon to behave in a certain way in what may be an awkward circumstance. Most books written by Enid Blyton or Roald Dahl and even some written by Indian writers emphasize this fact and can be used for this purpose.

[annie]

Children can be cruel by calling each other names or making disparaging comments about one another. This affects child development. As an adult, you can process unkind comments made to or about you without them affecting you deeply. You may want to know how to encourage children to feel good about themselves; these ten suggestions may help in that endeavor.

Feeling good about yourself simply means liking or believing in yourself and your abilities. It is developed as we love and care for our children which reinforces their importance in our lives. They see themselves through our eyes as they grow. Having a supportive and loving family will help them develop and maintain this vital self-worth.



The following are things parents can do to encourage children to feel good about themselves:

1. Tell your child that you love them often and sincerely. Let them know how glad you are about the person they’re becoming.

2. Spend time with your child. Listen to what they have to say. Support their dreams by being an active participant in their life. Your presences show their importance because time is a precious commodity.

3. Expect their best without expecting perfection. You can expect their best effort in school; however, accepting a lower grade as their best is important if they have worked hard for that grade. No one is perfect; expecting perfection damages their self-esteem rather than encouraging it.

4. Take an interest in your child’s schoolwork by being supportive. Help them with homework but don’t do it for them. Support after-school activities or volunteer at events in which they participate.

5. When helping your child with schoolwork, try to focus on more than the areas they’re struggling with. Give them the opportunity to show you their strengths. This will bolster their confidence before tackling something they may not be well-versed in yet.

6. Encourage them to have friends over. Make their friends feel welcome and take an interest in them. Allowing your child’s friends in your home also lets you see what type of influence your child’s friends will have on your child.

7. Children want to feel they have something to contribute. Expect them to help with family chores at their level. Younger children can fold clean clothes or set the table for dinner. Older children can do chores which don’t require your supervision. It’s also important for your child to be responsible for cleaning up their own messes, including keeping their bedroom clean.

8. Ask your child to help you with something. With all the new technology today, they’re probably better than you at some skills. Getting their help on a project requiring technology could whet their appetite for a new hobby as well as helping you with something important.

9. Allow your child the opportunity to fail. Children learn problem-solving skills by having to figure things out for themselves. If you solve your child’s problems, they won’t learn these skills.

10. Celebrate their achievements and successes. Encourage them with positive reinforcement. Be sure, however, that your praise is genuine as children are able to tell the difference between genuine praise and platitudes.

Children, like adults, want to know they are accepted and appreciated by those they love. Following some of these suggestions, you can learn how to encourage children to feel good about themselves. Once you’ve learned, don’t forget to put the suggestions into practice and watch your child’s self-esteem soar.

[annie]

Health is the most important thing in child care that is stressed upon right from the early beginning in life and kids exercise is one positive step that is taken towards this direction.



Kids love playing in the open fields and can run endlessly with a ball – in the happiness that this brings to them, they indirectly build themselves up both in body and in mind. A strong body is essential to take on the challenges and pressures of life. The stronger the physique is, the lesser is the chances of illnesses and sicknesses pulling the kid down to bed.

Kids exercise is one important curriculum in most schools and playhouses. Kids are taught to play together various games as well as activities that spread a feeling of togetherness among them and also help them in building up their strength and physique the way it is normally expected. The stronger the body is, the better is the defense mechanism against germs and viruses and better the immunity against all diseases. A healthy kid is always full of happiness and smiles, he or she is always busy with some thing or the other, whereas a sick child spends the greater part of his or her childhood in bed with the occasional visit to the physician for relief and comfort. Kid exercises can be of various kinds and types. There are various freehand exercises and others like cycling, running, jogging, swimming and even rowing and horse riding. Each of these exercises has their own sets of merits and advantages. The extent the exercise is required to be done, the timing for these exercises and the food that must be taken after the exercise is over is regularly researched upon so that there is an all round development in the health and well being of the child. Special trainers and instructors are available to teach some of the most popular kids exercise sets. These professionals are trained and have a huge amount of experience in making marvelous men out of the little kids with their frail little bodies and physique.